Recently one of my favorite wedding bloggers wrote an extremely honest post about putting her wedding plans on hold while she addresses her struggle with depression. Her candidness about an issue many of us struggle with really struck a chord with me.
Right after we got engaged, something really traumatic happened in my life that completely affected me. (I may blog about it at some point, because it does have a large impact on our wedding.) I tried to ignore the way I was feeling and just push forward with everything I needed to get done. Fast forward three weeks and I was in the New Orleans airport sobbing and having trouble breathing through my first full-blown panic attack.
I decided to see someone about my anxiety and put our wedding planning on hold for a bit. P was so wonderful through it all, and never pressured me to start talking about our wedding. I spent the summer taking care of myself, enjoying my last few weeks with my friends in Madison, and preparing for our move. When I started wedding planning again after we were settled in New Orleans, it was because I felt excited and ready.
I guess I'm writing this to say if you are struggling with anxiety or depression, just be open and honest with your partner about it. If wedding planning is adding to or causing your struggle, don't be afraid to put it on hold for a bit. Who cares what people will say? I can bet that if they care about you, they will support you and not give a damn about whether or not you have picked your color palette yet.