Tuesday, February 9, 2010

To look more feminine....

When I started this whole wedding planning journey, I thought I knew what I was getting myself into.  But a lot of things have surprised me along the way.  One of the biggest surprises is the very blunt expectation that all brides must be trying to achieve the best body possible for their wedding day.

Now don't misinterpret me here.  I think it is AWESOME to be in great shape, and your wedding day can be a great "get healthy" goal date.  I know I want to feel bad-ass in my dress, and thus have begun doing arm weights for the first time in my life.  (I want GUNS!  I know I'm not going to get Madonna arms, but I at least want some definition.) 

What I think is messed up is the expectation that you must be trying to lose weight.  I had two different bridal shop people ask me how much weight I was planning to lose.  Say what?  I wear a size 4, and while I have some trouble areas (love handles, anyone?), I don't think I need to lose weight.  And even if I did?  Its so inappropriate for this random person to assume that I want to.  I can only imagine what they say to girls who are even a little overweight.  It makes me cringe.

The kicker was when I went to my seamstress and she told me I either needed to lose weight or get some Spanx if I wanted to look "more feminine" in my dress.  Seriously?  So feminine means without curves?  Not last time I checked.  (I was planning on getting some Spanx anyway, but now I'm just annoyed.) 

Anyone else had crazy run-ins like this?  Did you tell them off?  (I wish I had.  I was just so shocked I was rendered speechless.  Next time I go to my seamstress I'm bringing back-up and having a couple drinks before hand.)


  1. those comments are not cool. Tell them that. I can't believe those people are so rude while you are paying them for their services.

  2. WHOA. that's ca-raaazy. seriously, next time, tell those bitches off. and the whole, losing the weight before the wedding pressure is just something the wedding world has made a "bridal necessity" to make money - just like when I tell people we aren't having a wedding cake. they flip out. cuz every bride is supposed to have a cake, right? and lose weight before her wedding so she can squeeze into the dress she bought that was initially two sizes too small, right? RUBBISH. Absolute rubbish. sorry you had to endure that expereience with the consultant... yucky.

  3. Weight is a tricky issue, no matter what size you are. I think the trick is saying eff you as politely as possible.
    Totally unacceptable.

  4. totally saying eff you next time, thanks ladies.

  5. Wow, I'm really looking forward to going to try on wedding dresses now!


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